The stages in the progression of a relationship as observed by the average love analyst.
(much like children) take time to develop. They grow and mature with love
, care and discipline. A relationship develops through stages. As I have observed there are six stages in a relationship. These consist of the first stage of blissful infatuation, the first, second, and third learning stages, then the turning point and last the stage of mature love.
First Stage
The first stage begins after the two people in the relationship initially become a couple, Before two people get together they obviously see something in each other that they like. Something, no matter what it is strikes their interest. For this they may long or yearn for one another. This is infatuation. After the initial hook this is all a couple has to go off of. It’s the simple bliss of having the person that was and/or is the object of their infatuation. It’s that giddy excitement of having a boyfriend or girlfriend figure from whom romantic affection is received.
Second Stage
The second stage is the first learning stage. This is when a couple begins to learn about each other’s likes and dislikes and hobbies. Things such as religious preference are discovered and learned about. Family is mentioned and perhaps bits and pieces about their lifestyles at home.
Third Stage
In the third stage ( the second learning stage) true personality begins to surface. Are they uptight or laid back? Are they passive or outgoing? Are they serious or fun-loving? In this stage partners become worthy of the title of best friend. They know each other now, their personality; there character. Now as the second learning stage intermingles with a more advanced form of the first learning stage the past is revealed and a deeper understanding of each other and each other’s lifestyles becomes apparent.
Fourth Stage
The fourth stage (the third learning stage) being the last stage just before the turning point is where a lot of break ups occur. Of course break ups can occur at any stage during a relationship in any length of time especially considering that a relationship can progress through the stages at any rate all depending on the couple and how much time they spend together and how well they communicate, but generally break ups will occur most often during the third learning stage and at the turning point. At this stage a couple grows on and becomes a part of one another. Habits are learned and adopted. Mental and emotional habits become clear as anger issues, sensitivity towards certain things, certain passions, strong emotions and weak ones. Are they very emotional or no? Do they show emotion or hide it? Habits in communication and some concerning affection will also become apparent.
Fifth Stage
The turning point comes around generally after the first year has past. There comes an event that marks the apex of the relationship. This is decision time. Based on all that has passed, based on everything that’s been learned or discovered, based on how a couple has grown on one another one must decide if their partner is truly the one for them; if the relationship is worth another year or two or forever. The trick is recognizing the turning point when it happens. If the turning point is ignored a relationship that should have ended could go on helplessly with the same reoccurring problems only to have wasted years before it ends in the very way it would have been expected to at the original turning point.
Sixth Stage
If the turning point is successfully overcome the relationship will come to rest in a state of mature love. This is true love. This is forever love. Recognition of this stage brings about happy, successful marriages.
Conclusion
Even if a relationship does not work out recognizing these stages will make the relationship more fruitful and there are always lessons to be learned from every relationship. By recognizing these stages a couple can watch their relationship progress and grow.
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